Adoption is a Choice

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People often dismiss the idea of adoption due to myths and outdated stereotypes. These myths and stereotypes don’t help anyone. They’re harmful to adoptees, birth mothers, adoptive parents, and women who are weighing their options in an unexpected pregnancy.

Modern adoption differs from adoption of the past. Knowing the facts could help you or a friend make an informed decision someday. It can also help you understand the experiences of adoptees and their parents.

Adoption isn’t “giving your baby away.” It’s a courageous and loving choice to give your baby the life you want him or her to have.

Adoption services are FREE to mothers choosing parents for their babies. Pregnancy-related medical expenses may be covered as well. Depending on which state she lives in, financial assistance to cover food, housing, and living expenses may also be available during pregnancy and beyond. Not everyone is in a position in life to raise a child. Modern adoption is an option that cares for both the birth mother and her baby while treating them both with dignity and respect.

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Modern Adoption

You are in control, and you don’t have to walk alone. You get to choose your baby’s adoptive family and decide how much contact you want to have. Modern Adoption provides you with support, resources, and mentoring every step of the way, even if you change your mind.  

Learn More About
Modern Adoption: 

Lifetime Adoption
Christian Adoption Alliance
Lifeline Pregnancy Adoption Plan
Lifeline Pregnancy Counseling

Myth vs. Truth of Modern Adoption

Two women and a baby sitting at a table outside, smiling and holding hands, with a backdrop of greenery and a building with barred windows.

Myth: Adoption is giving your baby away to a stranger. 

Truth:  You choose your baby’s adoptive family. 

A woman and a young girl are smiling and talking to each other in a bright living room.

Myth: Adoption is all about the adopting couple. Birth mothers and adoptees aren’t treated well. 

Truth:  Modern adoption treats women and their babies with dignity and respect. It provides the birth mother with options every step of the way. 

A woman with blonde hair is lying on a soft surface, snuggling with a newborn baby dressed in a striped outfit, both resting peacefully.

Myth: You’ll spend your whole life wondering what happened to your baby. 

Truth:  In modern adoption, you can stay in contact with your baby’s adoptive family and watch your child grow up. 

A woman and a young girl hugging warmly indoors, both smiling softly.

Myth: Adoptees end up in foster care. 

Truth:  Private adoption is completely separate from foster care. The baby leaves the hospital with the adoptive family without spending any time in foster care. 

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A baby lying on a bed, smiling while an adult gently touches her head. The baby is wearing a cream-colored outfit and a large headband with a bow.

Myth: Adoption places a financial burden on the mother. 

Truth:  Adoption is FREE to birth mothers. They may even receive financial assistance throughout the process. 

Myth: Adoption takes away your privacy. 

Truth:  Adoption plans are confidential and a woman’s privacy is respected. 

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Myth: Women don’t receive support after adoption.

Truth:  Many adoption agencies provide ongoing peer-to-peer support and counseling services to women who have placed a child for adoption.  

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